How To Have Great Sex: Reduce the Stress in Your Life

The world we find ourselves living in today is more stressful than ever. From long hours on the job, demanding families, the never ending bills that keep piling up, health concerns, relationship problems, etc. The average person has way too much on their plate to bear. So what do you do when stress is not only affecting all those other areas of your life, but also contributing it’s part on your sex life? Managing the stress will get you one step closer on teaching you how to have great sex.

When you’re feeling stress and anxiety, it’s nearly impossible to get into the mood and even harder to stay in it. How can you possibly enjoy being in the moment of the sex act when there’s over a hundred thousand little things flying around in your mind? Those stress inducing thoughts add to loss of the desire, arousal and the quality of the sex. Stress and anxiety affects the body, reducing the testosterone levels in both males and females. On another interesting note, according to sex therapist Wendy Trainor of Toronoto, anxiety constricts blood vessels, including those to the genitals, and can lead to lack of arousal in women, and erectile disturbances in men.

There are many factors that lead to one’s loss of their libido. Everyone’s life is different and the causes of the stress generally stem not from just one area, but several. A person would have to consider their lifestyle and whether it’s a healthy one. There will almost certainly be changes that need to me made if infact there are unhealthy habits that need to be tended to. Consider some of the following:

Excercise: Exercise is something that the average American sadly does not participate enough in. Our intellligent bodies has it’s own internal pharmacy. When the body is active and gets the healthy amount of exercise that it needs, endorphins are released. These are our natural anti-depressants.

Diet and Nutrition: Food is our medicine and is designed to heal the body in magnificent ways that are totally natural. On the opposite end, if you are indulging in foods that are harmful, the body will begin to manifest illness. Your body puts out what you put in. It’s important that you nurture it with foods that are potent with healing properties.

Sleep: Those who lose sleep on a regular basis are more likely to become depressed. Most of the time, stress and depression go hand in hand. Your performance level is not only affected in the sexual department, but in other areas of life as well. It is while you sleep that your body is at work with the healing process, releasing valuable hormones.

The options one has for managing the stress in their life are enormous. When considering this, remember that it’s not only important to tend to the body, but it is just as vital to care for your emotions. Toxic emotions are not only dangerous to the body, but dangerous to your relationships. If sex is an area in your life that has shown some lacking, you certainly would want to consider where you are, on an emotional level.

Hopefully the information provided has helped give you some insight into what may be preventing you from experiencing a healthy sex life. Let’s face it, each and every one of us wants to know the secrets to how to have great sex, and every time!

Just a little note for the men…. I know it can be hard to find out what it is exactly that your woman wants. All of us girls are different, but there actually is a common similarity. Just like you cute guys! If you want to know how to have great sex and want to research a little (which never did hurt anyone), click here to get more info on how to be the best lover ever.

Why Must You Embrace Change?

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
-Dr. Wayne Dyer

Why must you embrace change? Change is the flow of life. It’s the natural order of all things to evolve. Otherwise, one is left in a stagnant state of mind. This stagnancy causes the outside factors of your life to be put in what I would call a standstill. This means that all of the things in your life keep placing you in a perpetual “Ground Hogs Day”, lol. How can anything become different when you still think the same? Doing the same things. Making the same decisions. Keeping and making the same type friends and other relationships. Choosing the same type of jobs. Watching the same kind of films. Listening to the same kind of music. Etc, etc… You get the idea.
Not allowing for change, allows for nothing new to enter into your life. You can never learn, deepen, and grow in your life when you give permission for the “same ‘ole, same ‘ole”. Holding on to the old NEVER makes way for the new and improved. People approach their lives in this manner all of the time, yet have the nerve to ask “Why does this keep happening to me?” It has never occurred to them that maybe, just maybe, they are on the road of resistance and self-sabotage. They don’t bother to really look inside and then ask themselves, what may be the driving force and ultimate root of their problem.

Let’s take a hard look at what that problem really is. That problem is fear. Most individuals fear change because the unknown leaves a feeling of having no self control over what may happen. The unknown leaves uncertainty. Now, common sense let’s us know that nothing is guaranteed and for absolute certain. But that is no excuse to not make the needed changes that you need so much to get the ball rolling i your life.

Fear is crippling and can render a person powerless. You can imagine how and why someone would avoid feelings of powerlessness, and that’s totally understandable. However, not changing actually brings about the very thing we all attempt to avoid. We truly attract what we are trying to desperately to run away from. When issues aren’t confronted, they are simply swept under the rug only to multiply. When we finally do get to these mountains of conundrums, we are left overwhelmed and are put into a position give up altogether. None of this serves us.

Once again, you must ask yourself: Why can’t I change? What do I fear about this change? What things am I frightened to lose, due to the change? What part or parts of myself am I scared to change, and why?
The reasons and the questions are endless. All of us have unique lives and personalities so you can’t pin point what that may be for someone else. You can only work on YOU. No one else can do it for you. It is you that has sole responsibility for all that is in your life. You must consider and decide what things to keep, and what things you must lose in order to fine tune and enrich your own life.

So, once again… Why must you embrace change? Ponder that one for awhile and see what you come up with. I guarantee that you will be surprised that the answer that comes up from within you. Once you learn that fact, you can never turn back to what once was in your mind. Even if you decide to pretend and go into denial. Things WILL change whether it was you who put the change into motion, or someone else. Either way, you cannot escape it.

Thanks for allowing me to share my moment of thought for this day.

Namaste,

Jamie

Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, “This is the real me,” and when you have found that attitude, follow it.~ William James Quotes